Dear Jerk (aka my husband's boss),
In case you didn't realize, my husband has a life. Yes, I know he's completely wonderful and brilliant and you depend on him to do EVERYTHING, but guess what? I think he's wonderful too which is why it would be nice if he was HOME ONCE IN A WHILE. If my husband is head of his department, how about treating him with more respect by realizing that he has a life outside of work. Don't tell him he can hire another assistant and then change your mind. Don't tell him he's getting a lap top so he can work at home and then not buy one. You want him to get his master's degree since he's a boss, right? Then stop trying to prevent him from attending his classes by asking him to stay late. Stop expecting him to work weekends! I want my husband back! I'm realistic-- I know there will be late nights, but you are asking WAY too much and if you don't back off, you're gonna lose him and then you'll be SCREWED!
Sincerely,
The Angry Wife
P.S. Don't ever yell at my husband again about something that isn't his fault but in fact yours. Be a man and own up to your mistakes.
Well, that felt good! :-)
Posted by Hannah at March 8, 2005 10:16 PMgrrrr...your husband's boss sounds horrible!!!!!!
Posted by: letti at March 8, 2005 11:42 PMI can so empathize with you! When hubby worked in the Casino-Industry we almost NEVER saw him, the last straw for me was when I gave birth to our daughter. He was told that he can take off AFTER LUNCH!! since it was a planned c-section and I had to be in theatre at 14h00. They also wanted him to fly to Vegas for a confernce that weekend (she was born on a Wed.)I had a very clear opinion about it! In the end he took a few days of and went to Vegas when she ws 6 weeks old. He very quickly realized it was me or his work - I won!! Good luck - is it not nice to have a blog? I should have had one years ago, it really helps to just get somethings out of your system!!
Posted by: Pixy at March 9, 2005 12:54 AMDon't you hate it when companies tell you one thing, and then totally act as if they are trying to do the exact opposite!!! THat is what was happening to me 2 jobs ago. Needless to say, I left them in the dust.
Posted by: Valkyrie at March 9, 2005 02:15 AMI can totally empathise ...
Posted by: EL at March 9, 2005 04:20 AMMy husband's boss means well-- he really does. My hubby works for the Department of Defense and the 3 people above him (the BIG bosses) are all retired military and they treat everyone like they're in boot camp. My hubby is tough about it (I'd cry) but sometimes enough is enough.
Posted by: Hannah at March 9, 2005 08:58 AMyou go hannah, sometimes it really does help to vent.
Posted by: stef at March 9, 2005 12:39 PMOOOH! What an awful boss-man! I bet that was cathartic :) You're an awesome wife for supporting your hubby so much :)
Posted by: girl from florida at March 10, 2005 10:42 PMI personally experienced that type of behaviour. My previous company expected loyalty but failed to be loyal in return. After that, I decided that no job on this earth was more important than my life. I gave 11 years to a company only to be retrenched after it merged with another company. During those 11 years I sacrificed my life - and look where it got me - nowhere!
Posted by: Michelle at March 11, 2005 03:43 PM