When the phone rang last night at 11 something, I just knew someone had to be dead. No one ever calls us that late on weeknights and I just had a feeling. My first thought was that it must be my grandma, but when James sleepily looked at the caller ID and said it was his mom, I felt relief. He decided not to answer. Still, I felt that something was wrong. Turns out James's dear Uncle George is dead. They e-mail all the time and James has always been close to him. In fact, when we went to visit last Christmas, Uncle George paid for a rental car for us. James will be leaving Friday to attend the funeral and he thinks I should stay here. I agree it's probably best, but I feel so left out. I hate that he'll be up in Maryland with his family (they're mine too) and I'll be here, alone. First of all, most of his family smokes and he doesn't want me around it. Also, it's going to be $500 or so just for him. I hate that he'll miss Trick-or-Treating and the lunch we had planned Sunday with some couples from church. At least if I stay, I'll be able to go to the huge Christmas craft fair I am supposed to go to on Friday evening. Also, there's the problem with finding someone to watch Gracie and Wrigley, our dogs. It's just plain easier if I stay.
Do you think we made the right choice? After how I was feeling yesterday, this has only made it worse. A weekend alone while my family is grieving at a funeral without me.
Posted by Hannah at October 25, 2005 05:38 PMI don't really know the situation completely like you do. But I honestly think y'all made the best decision. If it's meant to work out and your meant to go, your heart will tell you.
Posted by: Shelby at October 25, 2005 07:51 PMI think you guys made the right decision... both for your health and your financial situation. If you want to drive a few hours south, you can come stay with me, my hubby has to work all weekend :)
Don't feel bad, sweetie... you are pregnant and vulnerable and you really have to think of the health of the baby right now! Being around smoking would be awful for the baby.
Posted by: girl from florida at October 25, 2005 10:24 PMHUGS to your dh and family.
Don't feel bad. Your baby is important and being around people who smoke right now is not good for you
I agree...while spending the time with his family during this time would be nice...financially and healthily (is that a word?) it would probably be best if you stayed home...that way you can take care of all the kids (baby, gracie & wrigley and the trick or treaters!)
Posted by: dazed at October 26, 2005 08:31 AMSorry about your loss. I also think you guys made the right decision, even if you feel pretty bad about it. Your family will understand.
Posted by: Christina at October 26, 2005 09:47 AMwe are sorry for your loss. don't fret. at least james will be here for the ultrasound...and dear hannah, you are never alone. maybe your family can come over to keep you company? hang in there dear.
Posted by: stef at October 26, 2005 11:35 AMMy condolences.
I think your choice was a fine one. Spending time with cigarette smoke and grieving family members is probably not what the doctor ordered.
I imagine your ultrasound will pep you up, but, if it doesn't, try watching a sad movie with your sister. Sometimes, a good cry helps a great deal.
I am so sorry for both of you. You guys chose what is best. I am sure everyone will understand:)
Posted by: Ani at October 26, 2005 07:06 PM