February 19, 2007
It's getting HOT in here . . .
What happens when you're period comes just as you stop being able to breathe through your nose? I've in such a bitchy mood, but don't worry, I won't take it out on you. :-) I just needed to complain for a minute.
In spite of my "condition", we decided to have a fun holiday and so we headed north for lunch and some shopping at Babies 'R Us. I stocked up on Earth's Best baby food (but not breakfast because of the re-call), and of course, I came home with more than I bargained for. Mom came too, and she bought Olivia some clothes and a dolly. I was completely drooling over a Jeep jogging stroller that had a place to plug in an Ipod. It even had speakers. Speakers!!!! What a freakin' awesome stroller and I wanted it sooooo badly, but I didn't buy it because we are poor and I had to charge Starbucks today because I hadn't balanced my check book and didn't want to risk it. Sad, I know. Anyway, I'm going to a huge consignment sale for baby items in a few weeks, and I'm hoping to find a used jogging stroller there. If not, James said I can buy a new one. Well, actually, first he asked why I couldn't jog with the one I have. I just looked at him. Can you see me running trying to push this??? They're not exactly made for speed.
And while you're looking at the stroller, can you believe that like 5 people a week ask me how old my little boy is? Actually, you probably can because it's amazing how many people mistake girls for boys and boys for girls! It's happened to most moms. I used to correct them, but now I just tell them her age. James will ask me why I didn't tell them she's a girl. I get tired of hearing their excuses as to why they thought she was a boy. "Oh, well, she doesn't have much hair". Um, why is hair associated with girls? I've also heard "Oh, well she looks more like a boy." Yes, people have actually said that. Three people to be exact. Oh, the things I should've said!
My friend Sarah, who I mentioned I was throwing a shower for, miscarried. Acutally, she's in the process of losing her baby. She told me yesterday that she can't stand to wait around while her dead baby comes out. What do you say to something like that? My heart aches for her. She was only 3 months along, but there's a lot of guilt associated with this pregnancy. She was finalizing her divorce when she learned she was pregnant, and she feels badly that she didn't want the baby initially . . . like maybe she caused this. She was finally accepting it and becoming excited, and now this happened. Also, her ex is a real jerk and he's been stressing her out so much, so she worries that could've been it too. I just don't know the right thing to say. I felt so guilty bringing Olivia with me yesterday to her house to drop off flowers. It sound stupid, but I'm sure I'd feel resentment towards someone who had a baby if I'd just lost mine. It's human. It's not rational or even fair, but it's human. I've heard infertile women talk about that resentment before, and I frankly don't blame them. What can I do/say to make her feel better? I've never really known anyone in real life who's miscarried before. Oh, and I blogged more about it at Mommy Musings.
Olivia has a new word. My mom's been saying "hot" and pointing to the fireplace, so today at lunch, we asked for a table near the fireplace so Olivia could see the "hot". When we sat down, Olivia looked at the fire, pointed to it, and said "HOT!" as she nodded her little head. It was so funny, because all through lunch, she'd be in the middle of trying to pinch a piece of carrot, or a cracker, and she'd look up and whisper "HOT!" to show us she knew it was still there. I could kick myself for not doing more sign language with her. She's got great verbal skills and she'd probably pick up the signs pretty fast.
Well, I'm off to blow my nose and get to bed!
Wait! I meant to mention this. Did anyone else read that the actor who plays Harry Potter is going to be completely nude for 10 whole minutes in a play? He's going from kids' movies to nude scenes. Apparently, some parents are outraged. I guess instead of Harry Potter, he'd rather be Hairy Peter. (sorry, I couldn't resist, I think I deserve a good slapping for that last comment.) :-)
Posted by Hannah at February 19, 2007 11:51 PMIsn't it bad enough to have one or the other (period/cold) but to have both @ one time, you poor dear! Glad to hear you had a fun weekend. The Jeep jogging stroller sounds awesome~I hope you're able to get one :) I agree, it'd be rather difficult trying to jog w/a regular stroller~~Men, sometimes!!!! I'm so sorry to hear about your friend Sarah. Having gone thru that myself I know how hard it can be. I will keep her in my prayers. That's too funny about Olivia's new word! I actually saw a story about Harry Potter on Entertainment Tonight a few weeks ago. Your comment gave me a laugh :)
Posted by: Connie at February 20, 2007 08:13 AMIt's actually not seeing a baby or people have kids that is upsetting. Any new life is a blessing. It's the thoughtless comments people make.
Posted by: Ani at February 20, 2007 10:41 AMI hope you feel better soon... having things running from both ends can't be fun... and when people tell me I have a cute boy and Lore is in pink and in her pink stroller I just call them stupid... come on it is PINK... but I have no idea what to do for your friend... maybe see if you can find a book at a christian book store that deals with this...
Posted by: Shannon O. at February 20, 2007 11:45 AMOlivia is so girly it's not even funny! People are so weird sometimes!!
Posted by: Amber at February 20, 2007 11:47 AMLOVE that pink stroller, but it would be pretty funny trying to jog with it. Be picky about what one you get. With Judah we got a cheap one from Target and it was horrible to run with. Now my mountain buggy can be used as a jogger, too. So, only 1 stroller. Yay!
I cannot believe the boy/girl comments. One day when we were out for lunch someone came up to Judah and asked, "What's your littler sister's name?" He just stared at her blankly and I had to bite my lip so I didn't start laughing hysterically. I think I choked out a "5 months" or whatever. Ha!
And, that last comment...hilarious!
Posted by: Morgan at February 20, 2007 12:13 PMFor a jogging stroller, try http://atlanta.craigslist.com and maybe someone has one on there...they always have good stuff!
Posted by: Sara at February 20, 2007 01:23 PMMy husband would *so* love that jogging stroller. Too cool about the iPod connection! We just bought a double stroller and *love* it. Lucas thinks it's the next best thing to Disney World! hehe :) I'm sorry about your friend's baby. I can't imagine. It would be *so* hard to know what to say to her. :( Oh, and I *really* don't want to see the Harry Potter guy nude. LOL! :)
Posted by: Lisanne at February 20, 2007 02:08 PMI really want a jogging stoller too. If you have many consignments shops in your area, or that big consignment sale, I bet they'll have some. I've heard that a lot of people get them and don't use them, so they'll probably be in decent condition.
Oh, and there's nothing you can really say to your friend about her miscarriage. Just tell her you're sorry for her loss. No one really knew when I had mine b/c I hadn't really told anyone about the pregnancy, so I didn't have to deal with people. I doubt she resents you for having a baby. Through our struggles with infertility and then with that miscarriage, I never really had jealousy for those who already had a baby...it was those that were pregnant that I had more trouble with...and that was usually just for those that didn't really seem to "deserve" children.
Posted by: Chas at February 20, 2007 02:22 PMI am sorry to hear about your friend...that's so sad. :(
And people must be silly to think Olivia is a boy, especially in a pink stroller! Sheesh! :)
I hope your friend doesn't continue to feel guilty about not being excited when she first learned she was pregnant and thinking that is part of why she miscarried. My sister miscarried a very much wanted and planned for baby at the same amount of gestation. It happened a couple of weeks after Christmas - after we all had gotten her baby themed ornaments and gifts. It was very, very sad - same situation where the baby died and she had to wait to pass it. It is so sad and something your friend will never forget. I think if you're just there for her - check in with her, especially around her due date, she would probably appreciate that.
Posted by: Jennie at February 20, 2007 07:12 PMI heard that Dan Radcliffe isn't going to be nude, but shirtless...? Although honestly - the poor guy is like nearly 19 :)
Posted by: Valkyrie at February 21, 2007 01:50 AMI'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I imagine just being there for her is enough. You can't change your situation and she can't change hers. Not saying that it makes it any easier.
Yes, now that I think of it McSteamy does look a little like Leo. I'll have to watch more closely tomorrow. :)
That stroller totally rocks! You'll be so happy getting a jogger. I didn't have one until my second but they really are nice to have - especially on any type of terrain. Regular ones are pretty useless through gravel or dirt.