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Okay, ready to be shocker? I don't have an ex. :)

But, Ray does & he still sometimes hangs out with her when she's in town. She's even on my myspace! It doesn't bother me because I know that I can trust him & that he has no interest in another woman, now.

I will admit that I've tried to find one of his other more serious ex's online, though!

Who hasn't Googled or MySpaced their ex? I can't imagine not doing that! My ex isn't on MySpace but I've read random things about him on the internet.

He has e-mailed me a couple times in the past year (since we ran into each other after 8 years) and he even asked us over for a crawfish boil, but I turned it down out of respect for my husband. I don't think that he'd want to sit there while we catch up.

I'd love to have a chance to have lunch with him to catch up on old times and have a good laugh. The only thing is that I have some unresolved issues with him that I'm sure would surface and I don't want to go there. Yes, I'm curious and nosy about his life but I love my husband too much to look into it any further than a google search!

I only have two exes. One lives in town and I haven't seen him since hubby and I were just dating. The other one is a whole different story. I've had my same cell phone number since then and one day he randomly text messaged me. I had no clue who it was, so texted back something generic to figure it out. It eventually led to emailing with him, myspace messaging, and even talking on the phone once in awhile. I meant nothing by it and, like you, was totally curious. But, I think he did mean something by it and would say things that would stir up feelings in me and make me forget why it didn't work out. Long, long, LONG story (hey, maybe I should start a password protected blog) short it was not a good idea. Hubby freaked out about the whole thing (rightfully so, I would have too) and I deleted my myspace, I have a different cell number (not because of him, we changed companies) and have basically made it so there's no way he could easily contact me. Of course, if he really wanted to he could look us up in the phone book, but I don't think that would happen. He's engaged to a sweet girl and I hope it turns out great.

Honestly, I don't think it's a good idea at all. I definitely don't think it's a black and white issue. I think you need to ask yourself what you're curious about. What is it that you want to know about him, or what is it that you want him to know about you? I definitely don't think it would be the same as keeping in touch w/ someone from high school, b/c you had a totally different relationship with this guy than you did with any friend. The fact that you even have to question whether it's right or wrong tells you that it's not the same. I think it also matters that your husband is against it. I would definitely care if I found out my husband was emailing with an ex-girlfriend. I do trust him, as I'm sure James trusts you, but he has no reason to trust Doug...and I am sure you already know that many a relationship has been ruined by situations like this. No one goes into it thinking anything will happen. My brother in law's (the minister) marriage fell apart after his wife started emailing "innocently" with her high school boyfriend...not so innocent in the end.

i haven't been in touch with my ex for 4 years now. but uh who's counting, right? :) of course i have googled him...i found his wife's blog. i haven't read it for years now because it was a difficult breakup. we were engaged to be married and had been together for 10 years before it ended.

i don't feel like i could get in touch with him, it feels meaningless. like there's no future in our friendship, if there can still be one.

it doesn't bother mike at all, i think he knows that i absolutely adore and love him.

I have an ex-crush that I google occasionally. He was a professional athlete though, so easy to find :) and oh so nice to look at too. (he was at one time a very good friend (i was his shoulder to cry on about his model gf's) - so it's not like a random crush on a celebrity)

I still see a few of mine from high school every now and then - the negative to living in a small town! BUT I agree with the other girls - who hasn't googled thier exes? Sadly, that is the only way I know what Anna's "dad" is up to. I have him on my favorites on myspace. Not that I care about him, but just feel like I should know what he is up to. ya know?

If it bugs him I wound't. Men and women can be friends but when they happen to be an ex sometimes and its only natural a little bit of jealousy creeps in. Although the relationship is solid they like to know that once in a while with words and actions. Such as not calling an ex. It's totally different when children are involved. You kind of have to deal with them unless they gave up their rights to the children.

I have a couple of ex's, but the one that comes to mind is the guy I dated for three years at the end of high school and college. We broke up, got back together and then broke up again because he got a girl he was dating at the time pregnant..at the ripe old age of 19. I never had any closure with that relationship and that bothered me for a really long time. He's still with that girl, and they have three children together. I do see him on occasion because his wife is friends with my best friend. And while I like seeing him, all I see is the boy that I dated from high school. No feelings, no curiosities...just a good memory from the past. I think the last time I saw him was the day after my wedding. They watched my best friends children the night before and they came to the hotel to drop them off. I think it was at that very moment that I finally had closure on the whole situation.

I don't have an ex, but my husband has a couple of former gf's and he sees them from time to time, mostly at get togethers with friends/family.
He's still good friends with the girl he dated before we met, they see each other on a regular basis and it doesn't bother me at all. She's lovely and I trust him.
And maybe I'm weird...but I have never googled one of his ex's. Or someone I know, actually.

i've googled one of my ex's a couple times just because i was curious as to what he was up to. my other ex instant messaged me once, and we had a very brief talk (me talking all about joe), and we haven't had contact since. i would never contact an ex. i just don't have any desire to, and even though joe trusts me, i wouldn't want to make him jealous. i know how i feel when the girls at his work hit on him. i hate it.

i also have googled a couple of his ex's. i don't know why, but i am so curious about them. maybe i'm weird. who knows.

I only have the one ex and we do not keep in touch at all. We were together and then he broke it off and I never heard from him again. Didn't return calls etc and I was too proud to bother to keep trying, plus I strongly suspected he was cheating. I googled him very early after we broke up but that was like 5 years ago now. :) So that's not an issue for us.
D was still friends with his ex when we met and they kept in touch. I didn't really mind as I knew he had no feelings for her. She even invited us to her birthday party a couple of years ago and I met her for the first time and since then she has not kept in touch with him and he doesn't bother with her. So no issues there either. :)

I blogged about this once, but my husband's best friend is married to my husband's ex-girlfriend. My husband and this guy were best man in each other's weddings. And this isn't just a random ex-girlfriend who didn't mean anything - this is the ex that was his "first", who he dated for quite a while, and who he hooked up with again shortly after we met and right before we actually started dating.

So I have strong feelings about this (and about dating your best friend's exes!), and I think it's best for everyone to be able to shut doors completely and not have constant reminders around of exes. However, that's not always possible.

And that being said, yes, I've googled my exes, I've found a few myspace pages of them, and I had an hour long conversation with one when we ran into him at a party. It's all a very grey situation.