Ok, so the doctor said no bladder surgery until after I'm done having babies. That could be several years. We know we want to try to #2 before the new year, but I could see us trying for a 3rd within a few years after that if we decide to have 3. I think at this point it depends on our financial situation at the time. Anyway, I can't wait that long, but I hate to have a surgery that will be undone with another birth. That's just crazy.
However, I was so busy last night at the book club making pot after pot of coffee (note to self: buy a carafe) and serving dessert (I decided on peach cobbler because my parents happened to bring me some peaches so it made good sense) that I didn't stop to go to the BR. I was also in charge of leading the discussion. Then one of my candles burned part of my wall, and I had to deal with that. Luckily, enough of the black came off that you wouldn't really notice. Needless to say, I was busy. It didn't feel like I really had to go that much, but when the night ended and I went to change clothes, my Poise pad was SOAKED. I can't do this for years. I'm peeing right and left. It isn't just an, "oops! I sneezed and out came a few dribbles." It's much worse. What will I do when I'm pregnant? I guess then I might be a little less embarrassed because it's pretty much a cliche that women have trouble holding it, but I'm not even pregnant, and I'm a leaky faucet. I woke up this morning, and as soon as I sat up, WHOOSH! This is awful!
I don't want to have surgery more than once, but might it be worth it not to be peeing my pants all the time? What would you do? Have surgery and risk having it again, or just stay padded and deal with it? If you really think about it, just dealing with it is easier said than done. It's a big incovenience. We 're planning a possible beach trip and I've already thought about what to do when I'm in my baithing suit and don't want to wear a bulky pad. I'm *so* frustrated!
Posted by Hannah at July 27, 2007 11:10 AMI think you should go back to your doctor and tell him what you just told us (the frequency and the amount over the last two days) and then get a second opinion. That seems like a lot to have to just deal with until you are done having kids. And you never know, the 2nd baby may not "undo" the surgery.
Posted by: Christina at July 27, 2007 12:06 PMOh Hannah, that is not good. I didn't understand the severity of it with your previous post. I think if I was in your shoes..and I can't be sure...but I think I might consider having it done now. You don't know for sure that you'd have the same problem after other babies, so why wait?? Plus, maybe the surgery would help you "hold it" during your next pregnancy..and then if it happened again...well, you don't even know for sure if you'll want a third baby. Good luck deciding!! I would definitely get a second opinion first!!
Posted by: Chas at July 27, 2007 03:19 PMI don't know why I didn't think of this when you posted about this before but there's a pill that you can take for this exact condition. I don't know if medication is a route that you'd want to go but it might be a solution til you're finished having babies. The pill is called Detrol LA & there's a commercial about it (it's the one that says, Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go right now). I went to Detrol LA dot com & there's some useful info. there. Anyway, I'd consult your dr. about it & mention this & maybe that'd be a solution for you til you finish adding to your family :)
Posted by: Connie at July 27, 2007 03:23 PMLike i said in my email to you... have the surgery... you just have to have c-section from now on so you don't mess up what they fixed with your bladder... you have to go back to the doc and be completely honest... get a chick doc if possible... some guys just don't get this...
Posted by: Shannon O. at July 27, 2007 11:44 PMOh I'm so sory. What a bummer. I would definitely get a second opinion! I hope something can be done that's less drastic than surgery for you ... fingers crossed.
Posted by: jesser at July 30, 2007 12:42 AMOk - here's my oppinion - and judge me if you like but here is some advice (all you other commenters can bugger off it you don't like it I'm trying to help here.) Have the surgery, you are RIGHT you CAN'T do this for YEARS. Then when you are pregnant with your next one - ask for a caesarian. It is your right. An American friend of mine living here at the moment wants a c-section and was worried that her US health insurance won't pay for it without a reason. We have the same Obgyn (who is Canadian btw and knows the laws around this from when she worked in the US). US law dictates that you have a CHOICE when it comes to YOUR body - what surgery you want. I.e.you are legally entitled to a c-section if you want it. Even if there is NO MEDICAL reason for it. This is provided it is of no immediate risk to the mother and chld (which it hardly ever is) However doctors and hospitals MISINTERPRET this because it's cheaper for them to force you to go natural - because you stay in hospital 1 less day. A lot of what u hear about c-sections is RUBBISH. I was driving a week after my surgery. NO COMPLICATIONS. My scar is invisible already. Seriously think about it. This way you will not dmage yor goodies again. If you want to know more let me know and i'll be happy to email you more of what it was like for me.
Posted by: Valkyrie at July 30, 2007 06:52 AMI am sorry you have to deal with this :( Not fun at all...I would definitely talk to your doc again. I hope things can get figured out so you can lead a "normal" life again without having to worry about this.
Sending you a big HUG.
Posted by: Amber at July 31, 2007 11:23 AM