You might be thinking the title means I'm going to go on and on about how uncomfortable I am. It's true, I am. I have aches and pains like you wouldn't believe. I don't remember feeling so uncomfortable this early with Olivia, and at not quite 21 weeks, I can barely get out of the bed! My sciatic nerve is just plain evil and my legs hurt too. It hurts to bend over and I feel like I'm 85 years old. And I have months to go! Acutally though, there is something making me feel more uncomfortable than the this growing fetus, and it's finally approached. The time has come to settle from the accident nearly two years ago.
I suppose some people would have dollar signs in their eyes and be hoping for tons of money. Me? Sure I'd like some money, but I HATE the idea of sueing someone. Well, technically, we're sueing an insurance company, but I know I'd feel bad if someone was sueing MY insurance company as a result of ME, even if I did something completely stupid like pulled out without even looking, hit someone, and then concocted a story to try and make it look like their fault when they were 7 months pregnant with a totalled car. But seriously, I feel so guilty about the possibility of getting money out of a law suit, even if I totally deserve it. I do have permanent damage, I have lots of pain, and I'll probably need therapy and/or surgery later in life, yet I feel like I have to keep going over these facts so I feel less guilty about this whole process.
I've been praying for God's hand to guide this whole mess. I don't want to win anything that isn't legitimately deserved.
I'm also completely stressed about when this mess will be over and the back-and-forth fighting will be done. As of now, my lawyer has submitted all the paperwork and proposed an offer, so now we're waiting for the other company to agree or counter. They were supposed to let us know today, or at the latest, Monday. It's unlikely they'll cooperate and agree. I'm sure they'll counter with a sucky offer, and it'll go on and then maybe even go to trial. What a mess. You know, after the accident, as soon as I knew Olivia was alive and well in my belly, my next thought what a pain in my a$$ all this would end up being, and it sure has. We have outstanding medical bills, our health insurance is involved, my car insurance is involved. I spend sometimes hours a week on the phone arguing about bills and who is paying what and when we'll be able to pay and filling out forms and faxing things and mailing things. It's a freaking nightmare and I just want it to be over!!!
Posted by Hannah at January 25, 2008 06:40 PMI remember when this accident happened! That was a long time ago!! I don't blame you for wanting it to finally be finished.
Posted by: Chas at January 25, 2008 11:38 PMI hope that you get all the money that you will need for things that need to be dealth with now and in the future... I hope that this passes quickly and you can move on with your life! HUGS!
Posted by: Shannon O. at January 26, 2008 10:32 AMGood luck - I hope it's over sooner rather than later!! :)
Posted by: Trace at January 26, 2008 06:01 PMSo sorry you are going through this. I hope you get a speedy resolution in your favor.
I can emphatise about the sciatica. Have that also. Plus my ankles and wrists are swelling now.
Posted by: Ani at January 27, 2008 07:02 AMDon't give up, make them pay for their own darn stupidity. The accident is obviously impacting your life in more ways than just the physical. The emotional strain of having to deal with all this is just as bad if not worse than the accident itself. Go get em girl.
Oh - and second pregnancies are WAY WAY harder. Take it from me, am now 28 weeks, also have a sciatic nerve from hell, my pubic bone (the bit where it starts to loosen up towards the end of pregnancy) is so painful when I get up from sitting down that I have to shuffle (like an old lady with a walker!) for at least twenty steps (holding onto something or someone for support) until I get going. I have 11 weeks left until my c-section date - and it also seems horribly far away. Oh and did I mention my ankles and feet are now one big swollen limb? Yeah, that didn't happen last time either :) I can't imagine how hard this would be if I'd had worse back issues as a result of a car accident as well!!
Posted by: Rainbowfudge at January 27, 2008 08:41 AMLOL @ RainbowFudge!!! hehe :) OK, you guys aren't making me miss being pregnant. :) Any chance you can go for a pregnancy massage? Take a long, relaxing bath?
I'm so sorry about the accident mess. I hope that you can get it all taken care of and then move on with your life. Ugh. What a hassle. Just what you need to deal with during your pregnancy! :(
Oh yeah, I felt more "icky" and uncomfortable with Meredith, but I attributed that to having a girl and having excess estrogen. But with second pregnancies, your muscles are looser so you feel a *lot* more stuff! hehe :)
Posted by: Lisanne at January 27, 2008 10:09 AMcar insurance companies are such pains to deal with. my brother-in-law is still dealing with the other insurance company regarding someone who hit him, what, like 3-4 years ago. they just drag their feet because they don't want to pay and you're the one who has to deal with the hassle. i hope yours gets resolved soon!!
Posted by: cady at January 27, 2008 01:12 PMwhen I went thru something similar, there was a lot of back and forth negotiations and the other insurance company didnt settle until LITERALLY, right before they were suppose to walk into trial. BUT, I say this to say that I am sure they want to avoid a trial and even if they wait until the last minute to settle, you probably wont have to worry about a trial.
Posted by: alfredsmom at January 28, 2008 10:03 AMGood luck, Hannah! I hope this is resolved very, very soon!
Posted by: Christina at January 28, 2008 11:35 AM